In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.
For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Mason doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
This was a unique read for me because, on one hand, it was like reading a self-help book, but on the other, it had a sense of humor behind it and was true. The book really got me thinking about my day to day life. How I care about too much and end up stressing out. Hence I give to many fucks about way too many things.
The author did amazing with this book and from now on I will take the majority of it as life advice. One point he made that I really enjoyed was that we are always striving to do better and be better when really we are already good enough. We are constantly beating our selves up for not being better and not making enough money. He talked about how most of us are living well above our means and end up stressing out because we can’t pay for it.
The most interesting narrative was about positive thinking. He mentioned how we went from thinking hey we are good enough to striving for more positivity making us more depressed because we thought maybe we weren’t happy enough, that we weren’t good enough. He mentioned how now in an age of social media we have so many choices and we are constantly doubting ourselves compared to if we only had two or three things to choose from instead.
He talked about a generation that feels they are entitled to every reward without having to work for it, even himself. The part about the stereotypes in relationships got me. He mentioned how when his wife asked him what he thought of her outfits or makeup he was honest. That that honesty provided them trust in their relationship, he also mentioned she called him out in his bullshit as well.
As I said before this was a unique read, it’s definitely a new favorite and I will probably reread this to get an even better understanding of everything said. I’ve never read a self-help book before, so it was really out of my comfort zone but I really enjoyed this book and highly recommend it.